“Now I wake up, feel that my husband is by my side. No one’s in pain and the kids are okay and that’s a good day. I’ve noticed as I age, I care less about what people think. Each year I give up something for my birthday. No more high heels, no skirts to work, I always wear flats and pants.* I’ve thought about wearing tennis shoes to work but haven’t yet. It takes a lot less to make me happy now then it once did,” Jane at dinner, 11/23